Have you ever experienced a situation where you are going along minding your own business enjoying life…and someone chooses to stomp on your daffodils? People like this make our lives challenging…and then God goes and makes it even more challenging by telling us we need to forgive those people.
In fact, forgiveness is so important to Jesus that he spelled it out for us loud and clear in Matthew 6:14-15, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
If forgiveness is elusive and seems too hard, try these steps:
- Pray. Tell God about this person.
- Ask for healing in your heart over the matter. Ask for the ability to let the matter go. Literally picture yourself handing the problem or the person to God in a wrapped box.
- Stop thinking of yourself as a victim. If you’ve invited yourself to a pity-party, tell yourself the party is over!
- Focus on the future.
- Learn to trust and be reasonable with your expectation of others. Give people grace and always assume best intentions.
Each day, write down things you’re grateful for and place them in a jar. If you feel unforgiveness welling up, take these notes of gratefulness out and read through them. You’ll be amazed at how powerful God is—and how he can heal and fade our negative emotions.
by Robin Nash
“Give us today the food we need, and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.” (Matthew 6:11-12)
Lord,I’m struggling to forgive. Please heal my heart, heal my relationships, and help me to focus on you in the midst of my storm.
Even princesses experience times when life’s not a fairy tale and our royal crowns seem cracked and broken. Fortunately, God can repair our cracked crowns and heal our pain.