I was having coffee with a girlfriend recently (one of my favorite ways to start the day!), and she was sharing with me about her needs in a friend. She made the comment, “I want to be pursued by a friend.” She explained she didn’t want to always feel like she was the only one reaching out. She wanted someone to reach out to her and make her feel wanted as a friend.
I can relate. Years ago I had a friend whom I called regularly and set up times for us to get together. One day it occurred to me that she had never reached out to me. I was always the one to initiate the conversations. I started to wonder if this woman even liked me. Was she simply tolerating me since I kept calling her to set up lunch dates? Did she value my friendship? I decided to put this to the test, not calling her again and waiting until she called me.
I am now very embarrassed to say that nearly a year went by. She never did call me, and I was sure she had never wanted to be my friend. But I bumped into her at a social gathering, and she made a comment that she missed our times together. She said she was always a bit shy to reach out, and wished I would call her again. I felt like such a fool! I had missed these months of friendship because of my doubts. I wanted to feel pursued—and it had cost me months of time with a friend. (We did start getting together again—so the story does have a happy ending!)
Are you waiting to be pursued in friendship? Or do you feel like you’re always the one doing the pursuing? Don’t let these feelings stop you from finding authentic friendship! Instead, take comfort and joy in the fact that God pursues you. The Creator of the universe wants you and actually gave up his Son so you could have a relationship with him! And he did this while you were still lost in sin. Before you had experienced life-changing grace. Amazing!
Reflect on these verses today. Journal your thoughts about God and his love that chases you relentlessly. Then call a friend—or someone you barely know—whom God has put on your mind. Pursue her with God’s love, and let that friendship blossom.
“God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other.” —1 John 4:9-11
“But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.” —Romans 5:8
“And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” —Ephesians 3:18-19
Amy Nappa; former, and much-loved champion of Group’s Women’s Ministry