I’m excited to be heading to Seattle this week for a women’s ministry training event! It sort of came up suddenly, but it was all God. I was so proud of the other women leading the event, because they did something that most leaders find very difficult to do. They asked for help. As the numbers grew, so did their concerns, and they decided it would be better to ask for backup than risk being overwhelmed at the actual event.

I have learned over the years that it’s not just men that don’t like asking for help. Many women try to avoid it, too. Consider Martha. Did she even ask for anyone else to help? Or did she just go complaining to Jesus because she had too much to do and thought Mary should be helping? I don’t know, but I can guess.

There are some women who just like the martyr role. They don’t want to give up the power that comes from others feeling sorry for them because they have so much to do. (Yes, I am going there.) Or there are those of us who can’t let go of anything because our desire to see it done perfectly (read: “my way”) is more important than our own mental, spiritual, or physical health. And in reality, our relationships.

When we refuse to ask for help, we are telling those around us, I don’t need you. But that’s just not true! We DO need each other, whether we are willing to admit it or not. Like the women on the Seattle team. They could have plowed through, possibly stressed, possibly not as effective as they could be. Thankfully they chose wisely to at least ask. That’s all it takes!

How about you? Is there an area of your life or ministry that has you fretting or fearful? Are you stuck somewhere and not sure how to get out? Maybe it’s time to ask for help. I encourage you to let go of whatever reason or excuse you may have and reach out. Trust me, the women around you are probably waiting to be asked. And you may open the door for God to come in and do something new.


Sue Brage has been part of women’s team since 2010. She’s loves helping women’s ministry leaders consider new ideas to motivate and appreciate volunteers, get creative in their ministries and have fun! She has served the local church for more than 30 years.