It’s a common complaint among women’s ministry leaders, “The younger women won’t come!” or “None of the older women ever attend!” It can be a challenge to reach both ends of the age spectrum.

Instead of tearing your hair out in frustration or making wild guesses at what might attract all ages, simply start talking—and listening. Invite two or three of the older women and two or three of the younger women to join you for coffee. Go around the table and let each woman complete sentences like:

  • I wish our church offered…
  • I’d love the opportunity to serve by…
  • We could get more women like me to participate if we…

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Use the time to listen and take notes. Encourage open and honest sharing. Letting women of all ages hear from each other helps everyone see that we have more in common than we think, and it builds bridges to each other and to solutions. It’s likely that even during this conversation walls will come down and assumptions will change as younger and older women talk together.

You don’t have to make any promises at this meeting, and you might want to repeat the process with a different group of women to learn more. These conversations can help you gain insight, get ideas, and discover new leaders within your midst.


Amy Nappa, former and much-loved the Champion for Women’s Ministry at Group Publishing in Loveland, Colorado.